I wonder if it might be be easier for your brother and wife to move out vs. Kicking nmom out? Basically like pack their things and move in the night kind of thing. Could they afford an apartment for a few months so that nmom can have her meltdown because she definitely will when she realizes that her "servant" is gone. It's called an "extinction burst." I had one with my narc too and now it has settled into her... Source: over 1 year ago

I have a few suggestions. The website agingcare.com has been helpful for me. They can set you up with resources in your area- it differs from state to state in the USA. Maybe your other brother could contact your distant brother and talk to him about these issues? Source: over 1 year ago

I'm sorry you are in the mess. Check out agingcare.com for addtional resources and idea. Source: over 1 year ago

Can you contact community services in your area and explain that you are not prepared to be her caregiver? They will be able to set her up with support services that are available. (I actually found this forum via agingcare.com) Good luck! Source: about 2 years ago

Https://sg.wantedly.com/projects (Japanese Linkedin). Source: over 1 year ago